Not such a Fantasy

Everyone knows that weddings are stressful, it is one of those given moments that you know not to piss off a bride or give her bad news, she's stressed out enough as it is.
Well today I got that not so great news.  I've been calling Fantasy Bridal for the past 2 weeks checking on my wedding dress to see what the progress is on it.  Well last week I was rather rudely told that I would get a phone call when they were done so I just had to wait! Yes the way that is written doesn't sound rude but it was the ladies tone throughout the entire conversation.  So then I called this week, I mean I'm down to less than 2 weeks to my wedding and I still don't have my dress in hand. I got the same lady I had to deal with last week, doesn't she take a break?, And she went back and spoke with the alteration ladies.  They said they would be done with it and pressed  by Wednesday.  Then I get a phone call maybe an hour later from the same old lady saying that there is a problem.  They need to let the dress out 3 inches around my rib cage, no it was not measured and it is not one of the areas that are measured for some reason with their dresses. Well the dress won't allow for a 3 inch let out so I have to go in this Wednesday, now 9 days away from my wedding to get this fixed.  Which will probably mean that I have to pay for more material to get those 3 inches taken care of. I'm so pissed off right now and freaking out because I am getting down to the wire and I shouldn't have to pay for the extra material when this is something gone wrong with their measurements.

So I am telling people this now. Do no buy your dresses from Fantasy Bridal and please tell others not to buy their dresses from this terrible store.  The sales women are rude, they measured me in the middle of the store by the windows, yes that makes me feel secure when people are writing down my measurements and knowing that I am cared about.  No I didn't buy a full on wedding dress from them but really who says a wedding dress has to cost thousands of dollars, if it's the right dress, it's the right dress.  Then when I'm told it would be finished with alterations when it came in buy August 20 then I come back and they say it won't be ready til September 3.  You would think that with my wedding being September 8 it would be higher on the list of which dress gets touched first because of how close my wedding date was approaching. I'm not saying that I should get better treatments than other brides but really why work on a dress that the wedding isn't until October when you have ones coming up in September.

I do blame myself for this because we were planning on making the dress so all of this could have been avoided had we just made the dress ourselves rather than giving that over to a store. I hate that hindsight is 20/20.

I will keep you up to date, don't worry.
~Mary

13 Days

Well more like 12 and some change really but it is scary that we have less than 2 weeks left until Chris and I are married. I've had some panic attacks with that realization and yes I knew it would fly by so I was expecting it.
I just keep telling myself to Keep Calm and Carry On. It helps, sometimes but everything will be fine in the end.

Thank you
~Mary

Failure to communicate

This has nothing to do with Chris and I but more along the lines of my families lack of communication skills.  I know that getting married older I'm not necessarily wiser than other brides but I have gone through a little bit more of life so not everything is all polished and new looking to my eyes.  Let's face it, I've become jaded due to my line of work. 
So my older brothers family has practically backed out of the wedding.  Being older you wouldn't think it would hurt so much, yet it does.  I can't up but take it personal.  I know I need to speak to them about this and how much it hurts me because it feels like they don't want to spend time with me.  I know it's one of those languages of love thing and I feel loved when people spend time with me. So by them not spending time with me it feels like to me that they don't love me. I'm not sure if that is their intent with it or that they don't realize that that is how I feel loved by others.
I don't really have a point to this right now, it's just one of those times when you have to get things off of your chest.

Thank you for reading.
~Mary

Bridal Moment

I may have given into a little bit of a bridal moment the other day.  My dress is fine everything will be okay with it so, it's all good. 
I can now see why Brides can turn into Bridezilla, it becomes difficult to keep your composure when things don't always go according to the plans you had in mind. 

The Horrors of dresses

We have already established someplace I think that Chris is a very lucky man for marrying me. However wedding dresses are not very lucky because I have to fit into them and my stupid boobs get in the way. My advice for dress shopping.  Find one that you like and then find someone who can recreate it for you.  You won't have to deal with alterations or that it came in with a major issue that now has to be fixed because someone didn't read instructions! Yes I'm on the verge of tears right now because with buying the dress it was supposed to be less stressful than making it but I'm still feeling the stress of it. And yes alterations are expensive. 

Invitations

I am able to mark another check off of my list of things to do for the wedding.  I honestly believe it is a rather big check because it means that the invitations are now off to the printer and I just need to wait for them to come back to my doorstep so I can start planning a stuffing envelope party. Sounds exciting I know. 
It seems like a big check to me since I've been able to make my own invitations.  Yes it is one of those money saving ideas but I also have Microsoft Publisher for my home computer so it makes creating a publication so much easier. I don't think they turned out bad and when I look at the final draft before okaying for the printing of them I kind of feel like they look just as good as any professional job. But I suppose those receiving the invitations will be the final judge of if they look like a homemade job or if they look like some publishing company did them. 
Oh, I'm also going to be making the Thank You cards myself too with the same type of program and printing company.  Shoot if you can beat 500 invites for under $71 let me know. ;)


Thank you for reading
~Mary

It's a Keeper!

We decided we are going to take the apartment!!!!
The more we think about it the more we see ourselves in it.  We know it will only be for a short time, it had better be for a short time ;).  Yes it is small but my parents said we can keep whatever doesn't fit at their house in my old room. Also when I get a full-time job, see bringing in the positive vibes, we can save and pay off debt and keep our costs down. Then the sooner we pay off enough of my student loan debt then we could possibly get a condo or something and be able to bring Jasper with us then and from there move onto a house. 
I've only had like 4 panic attacks too with the whole thing of moving out, I know I'm slow but what do you expect from a Star Wars fan in their parents basement? Other than a crap load of shoes. 


Thank you for reading
~Mary