With the wedding happening this weekend we are in the final stages of everything we can do for this wedding. This week will probably be an emotional time for me since I will be moving out of my house for the first time in my entire life. I didn't think I would see it as this hard of a moment to get through. I'm excited to get married but I didn't expect these emotions to well up like they are. I worry about my little sister and how she's going to handle me being out of the house. I know she always stick her tongue out at me and does her little downs speech and laughs that funny laugh of hers, how will she take all of this after losing her best friend in my oldest sister a year ago and now losing me who's been her protector over the years. Yes we are planning on spending time with her and planning 'play dates' with her but I'm still worried how she will take this.
I also worry about my dog who I won't be able to see every day and have him wake me up in the middle of the night to be let outside. He was a rescue dog so his owners abandoned him and I feel like I'm doing that to him now. Chris and I do plan on coming by once a week to take him for walks and to play with him so he knows I'm still around and that I haven't left him completely. You don't think these things will bother you when you are getting ready to leave home. I'm ready to be married and start my new life and there will be changes with it and there will be growing and adjusting to each other but it is time that Chris and I stepped into that new life of ours and grow together.
I suppose I'm content with my life and getting married is the right thing for me to do, but I don't NEED to get married like some people feel they do. I'm not putting anyone down by that because everyone's lives are different and everyone's needs are different so their reasons for getting married and leaving home are different and my reasons are different as well.
I hope to be able to post this week about everything that is going on with the final prep plans but we will see if I am able to or not.
Thank you for reading
~Mary
Sunday, September 2, 2012
Monday, August 27, 2012
Not such a Fantasy
Everyone knows that weddings are stressful, it is one of those given moments that you know not to piss off a bride or give her bad news, she's stressed out enough as it is.
Well today I got that not so great news. I've been calling Fantasy Bridal for the past 2 weeks checking on my wedding dress to see what the progress is on it. Well last week I was rather rudely told that I would get a phone call when they were done so I just had to wait! Yes the way that is written doesn't sound rude but it was the ladies tone throughout the entire conversation. So then I called this week, I mean I'm down to less than 2 weeks to my wedding and I still don't have my dress in hand. I got the same lady I had to deal with last week, doesn't she take a break?, And she went back and spoke with the alteration ladies. They said they would be done with it and pressed by Wednesday. Then I get a phone call maybe an hour later from the same old lady saying that there is a problem. They need to let the dress out 3 inches around my rib cage, no it was not measured and it is not one of the areas that are measured for some reason with their dresses. Well the dress won't allow for a 3 inch let out so I have to go in this Wednesday, now 9 days away from my wedding to get this fixed. Which will probably mean that I have to pay for more material to get those 3 inches taken care of. I'm so pissed off right now and freaking out because I am getting down to the wire and I shouldn't have to pay for the extra material when this is something gone wrong with their measurements.
So I am telling people this now. Do no buy your dresses from Fantasy Bridal and please tell others not to buy their dresses from this terrible store. The sales women are rude, they measured me in the middle of the store by the windows, yes that makes me feel secure when people are writing down my measurements and knowing that I am cared about. No I didn't buy a full on wedding dress from them but really who says a wedding dress has to cost thousands of dollars, if it's the right dress, it's the right dress. Then when I'm told it would be finished with alterations when it came in buy August 20 then I come back and they say it won't be ready til September 3. You would think that with my wedding being September 8 it would be higher on the list of which dress gets touched first because of how close my wedding date was approaching. I'm not saying that I should get better treatments than other brides but really why work on a dress that the wedding isn't until October when you have ones coming up in September.
I do blame myself for this because we were planning on making the dress so all of this could have been avoided had we just made the dress ourselves rather than giving that over to a store. I hate that hindsight is 20/20.
I will keep you up to date, don't worry.
~Mary
Well today I got that not so great news. I've been calling Fantasy Bridal for the past 2 weeks checking on my wedding dress to see what the progress is on it. Well last week I was rather rudely told that I would get a phone call when they were done so I just had to wait! Yes the way that is written doesn't sound rude but it was the ladies tone throughout the entire conversation. So then I called this week, I mean I'm down to less than 2 weeks to my wedding and I still don't have my dress in hand. I got the same lady I had to deal with last week, doesn't she take a break?, And she went back and spoke with the alteration ladies. They said they would be done with it and pressed by Wednesday. Then I get a phone call maybe an hour later from the same old lady saying that there is a problem. They need to let the dress out 3 inches around my rib cage, no it was not measured and it is not one of the areas that are measured for some reason with their dresses. Well the dress won't allow for a 3 inch let out so I have to go in this Wednesday, now 9 days away from my wedding to get this fixed. Which will probably mean that I have to pay for more material to get those 3 inches taken care of. I'm so pissed off right now and freaking out because I am getting down to the wire and I shouldn't have to pay for the extra material when this is something gone wrong with their measurements.
So I am telling people this now. Do no buy your dresses from Fantasy Bridal and please tell others not to buy their dresses from this terrible store. The sales women are rude, they measured me in the middle of the store by the windows, yes that makes me feel secure when people are writing down my measurements and knowing that I am cared about. No I didn't buy a full on wedding dress from them but really who says a wedding dress has to cost thousands of dollars, if it's the right dress, it's the right dress. Then when I'm told it would be finished with alterations when it came in buy August 20 then I come back and they say it won't be ready til September 3. You would think that with my wedding being September 8 it would be higher on the list of which dress gets touched first because of how close my wedding date was approaching. I'm not saying that I should get better treatments than other brides but really why work on a dress that the wedding isn't until October when you have ones coming up in September.
I do blame myself for this because we were planning on making the dress so all of this could have been avoided had we just made the dress ourselves rather than giving that over to a store. I hate that hindsight is 20/20.
I will keep you up to date, don't worry.
~Mary
Sunday, August 26, 2012
13 Days
Well more like 12 and some change really but it is scary that we have less than 2 weeks left until Chris and I are married. I've had some panic attacks with that realization and yes I knew it would fly by so I was expecting it.
I just keep telling myself to Keep Calm and Carry On. It helps, sometimes but everything will be fine in the end.
Thank you
~Mary
I just keep telling myself to Keep Calm and Carry On. It helps, sometimes but everything will be fine in the end.
Thank you
~Mary
Sunday, August 12, 2012
Failure to communicate
This has nothing to do with Chris and I but more along the lines of my families lack of communication skills. I know that getting married older I'm not necessarily wiser than other brides but I have gone through a little bit more of life so not everything is all polished and new looking to my eyes. Let's face it, I've become jaded due to my line of work.
So my older brothers family has practically backed out of the wedding. Being older you wouldn't think it would hurt so much, yet it does. I can't up but take it personal. I know I need to speak to them about this and how much it hurts me because it feels like they don't want to spend time with me. I know it's one of those languages of love thing and I feel loved when people spend time with me. So by them not spending time with me it feels like to me that they don't love me. I'm not sure if that is their intent with it or that they don't realize that that is how I feel loved by others.
I don't really have a point to this right now, it's just one of those times when you have to get things off of your chest.
Thank you for reading.
~Mary
So my older brothers family has practically backed out of the wedding. Being older you wouldn't think it would hurt so much, yet it does. I can't up but take it personal. I know I need to speak to them about this and how much it hurts me because it feels like they don't want to spend time with me. I know it's one of those languages of love thing and I feel loved when people spend time with me. So by them not spending time with me it feels like to me that they don't love me. I'm not sure if that is their intent with it or that they don't realize that that is how I feel loved by others.
I don't really have a point to this right now, it's just one of those times when you have to get things off of your chest.
Thank you for reading.
~Mary
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
Bridal Moment
I may have given into a little bit of a bridal moment the other day. My dress is fine everything will be okay with it so, it's all good.
I can now see why Brides can turn into Bridezilla, it becomes difficult to keep your composure when things don't always go according to the plans you had in mind.
I can now see why Brides can turn into Bridezilla, it becomes difficult to keep your composure when things don't always go according to the plans you had in mind.
Monday, July 30, 2012
The Horrors of dresses
We have already established someplace I think that Chris is a very lucky man for marrying me. However wedding dresses are not very lucky because I have to fit into them and my stupid boobs get in the way. My advice for dress shopping. Find one that you like and then find someone who can recreate it for you. You won't have to deal with alterations or that it came in with a major issue that now has to be fixed because someone didn't read instructions! Yes I'm on the verge of tears right now because with buying the dress it was supposed to be less stressful than making it but I'm still feeling the stress of it. And yes alterations are expensive.
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Invitations
I am able to mark another check off of my list of things to do for the wedding. I honestly believe it is a rather big check because it means that the invitations are now off to the printer and I just need to wait for them to come back to my doorstep so I can start planning a stuffing envelope party. Sounds exciting I know.
It seems like a big check to me since I've been able to make my own invitations. Yes it is one of those money saving ideas but I also have Microsoft Publisher for my home computer so it makes creating a publication so much easier. I don't think they turned out bad and when I look at the final draft before okaying for the printing of them I kind of feel like they look just as good as any professional job. But I suppose those receiving the invitations will be the final judge of if they look like a homemade job or if they look like some publishing company did them.
Oh, I'm also going to be making the Thank You cards myself too with the same type of program and printing company. Shoot if you can beat 500 invites for under $71 let me know. ;)
Thank you for reading
~Mary
It seems like a big check to me since I've been able to make my own invitations. Yes it is one of those money saving ideas but I also have Microsoft Publisher for my home computer so it makes creating a publication so much easier. I don't think they turned out bad and when I look at the final draft before okaying for the printing of them I kind of feel like they look just as good as any professional job. But I suppose those receiving the invitations will be the final judge of if they look like a homemade job or if they look like some publishing company did them.
Oh, I'm also going to be making the Thank You cards myself too with the same type of program and printing company. Shoot if you can beat 500 invites for under $71 let me know. ;)
Thank you for reading
~Mary
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